|     "At the 
age of 10, I was adopted by my mother's new husband. He was a very quiet man who 
never talked much about himself, or shared feelings. Having lost my biological 
father at an early age, I never really learned how to have a close father/son 
relationship. 
     After my 
children were grown, my mother became very ill and eventually died. My wife and 
I were very concerned because my father seemed lost without my mother, and we 
needed to find a way to communicate with him. That's when I began to bring the 
BioBinder Cherished Memories - The Story of My Life with me when I visited my 
father. I told him that I wanted to interview him and learn more about his life. 
That was the beginning of a new relationship. Not only did it open the door for 
me to fully understand and appreciate him, but he realized that I really loved 
him and cared enough about him to want to understand his life. His self esteem 
improved, his depression improved, and even his grandchildren began to interact 
with him and couldn't wait to hear the stories each week. 
     What I 
learned was that his mother died when he was only 4 years old. The day of her 
death, his 2 year old sister was taken away and placed elsewhere. His father rotated 
him in homes of various relatives since he traveled and was unable to care for 
him or his sister. He learned to just be quiet, not bother anyone, keep his thoughts 
to himself, and just be grateful for the roof over his head. Now I understood 
why he was not a good communicator and didn't share feelings. 
     What really 
amazed me was the fact that he did very well in high school, most of which was 
spent living in an apartment alone. The day after Pearl Harbor, he enlisted in 
the Army to help defend his country. He rose through the ranks to Captain. After 
the war he went on to college, and graduated with honors. He eventually started 
his own CPA practice, and with no help or assistance from anyone, he became successful. 
Now I understood and admired him for having achieved everything on his own. 
     I now realize 
that after he married my mother, it was an act of selfless courage that he adopted 
her 2 sons, ages 10 and 12. He may not have known how to verbalize his love for 
us, but he always made sure we were safe and cared for. Then came the shock as 
we continued the interview. We learned that he had not seen his sister in about 
40 years. We decided to arrange a reunion. We took him to Hawaii and videoed a 
beautiful emotional reunion. We then gave his sister the BioBinder Cherished Memories 
- The Story of My Life, and she immediately began completing her life story. With 
laughter and tears, they were amazed at what they learned from each other about 
their journey through life, and in spite of the separation, they realized they 
loved each other. 
     All of 
this opened up my father's heart, and he was now affectionate and communicative 
with me and with the family. I consider this a miracle, because shortly thereafter 
my father suddenly died. I feel that events never would have unfolded to provide 
such perfect closure to his life if it weren't for the interview process we began 
by using the BioBinder Cherished Memories - The Story of My Life. 
     Nobody knows what tomorrow 
brings, so I'm hoping that everyone reading this will capture their life story 
and the lives of their loved ones." 
                     
Ken 
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